Thank you for your message which has come as a shock and a surprise.
Emotions overwhelm you on such occasions.
My earliest memories of Ramani, which is the name we knew her by until she
changed to Mary, is of a little girl immaculately turned out playing in the
garden just above the basketball court which is where your parents first
resided when they moved to Simla. Your parents did not hesitate to display
their affection for this little girl who always seemed shy. She found it
easy to constantly attach herself to her mother and then peer at you from
behind her mother’s sari. She would then smile with hesitation. Small and
casual images but they remain such clear memories etched in my mind. Trivial
and insignificant as these are, they take you back to the happy days of
places, people and events that happened so long ago.
There is now a graphic contrast from that little happy girl to a grown woman
who just past on in life. Two starkly different events more than 50 years
apart strike you as collective memory and you say to yourself, “What
happened ? Did this passage of time move so quickly ?” Disbelief.
I just called and spoke with Sara a few minutes ago. This is another hard
blow after the passing away of your mother in June this year. Ramani’s
photograph bears such a close resemblance of your father, Mr P M Varughese.
Suddenly this family comes back and we can only think of them with affection
and gratitude for the fact that they touched our lives.
On behalf of all those who remember and knew her, The Old Cottonian
Association, we offer our deepest condolences to your families and you. May
her soul rest in peace.
With kind regards
From: A. Siromoney
Sent: 28 December 2017 12:07
To: Vijay Khurana
Subject: Death of Mary d/o PM Varughese
Dear Mr Khurana
I know that my older sister Mary (Ramani) Varughese kept in touch with the
old Cottonians. She was suffering from terminal lung cancer diagnosed in
July 2016. Thanks to the efforts of the doctors at CMC Vellore she enjoyed
fairly good health for nearly 16 months; but the cancer eventually overtook
the available therapies by September. I regret to inform you that she passed
away on 20th November in Delhi at my other sister Sara’s home.
The funeral and burial was conducted in at her church in Coonoor, Nilgris
Dist, Tamil Nadu on 24 Nov.
She studied up till Std VI in BCS, VII -IX at Convent of Jesus and Mary,
before my father moved to the Nilgris where she completed her schooling in
I am attaching the PDF of the obituary in the Hindu (all editions).
Deepest condolences for a good woman and a wonderful teacher. She was virtue defined and I can still see her in that class room, which had a view of the Tara Devi Hill, teaching us the first lessons in arithmetic – how to add, subtract, multiply and divide in that order, over those lovely days in the Spring of 1954.
Basic life’s lessons came from people like her. We imbibed them like sponges and what haven’t they done to make our lives fruitful and productive ?!! She also taught us Divinity for a brief while but her lessons had little to do with the Bible. She devoted her time to inculcating the basic value systems for a good life to 7 year olds eager to learn life’s first lessons.
The Varughese couple will always occupy an enduring presence in the lives of so many of us. They were exceptional people and made a deep impression on us. To this day they are remembered as teachers who were committed and cared deeply for the students in their care. They tailored their influence based on the needs of the individual which is why they were so impactful.
The people who really make a difference are not what they say to you but how they make you feel. She and her husband made us feel wanted and feel really good. Thank you.
We convey our respects and whisper in her ears our everlasting love.
Our deepest sympathies to Anna, Sara, their respective families and to you.
From: Mary Varughese
Sent: 17 June 2017 08:34
To: Vijay Khurana
Subject: Re: Mrs M. Varughese departed
My mother went to her heavenly abode, yesterday afternoon. Funeral will be tomorrow afternoon in Kerala.
Please inform BCS OCA
Thank you to all for your support.
Mary, (Ramani, Anna and Sara)